When you do a quick search on the meaning of Memorial Day, it’s defined as, “a day on which those who died in active military service are remembered.”
For many, the meaning of the day is lost amidst the hot dogs, cold beers and general camaraderie with friends and family. I’m not sure that’s such a terrible thing considering everything I’ve just described is what makes us free, which is what a soldier is fighting for in the first place.
Whenever I’ve spoken to someone who’s served, their answer is generally the same. They mention honor, duty and a desire to give back to our country. Of course, not all veterans feel this way, but many of them do.
They’re thankful, perhaps more so than most. Many of them have seen the horrors of war or they’ve had to endure more than most from a physical and/or mental perspective.
From a young age, I taught my daughters a short saying, “be thankful for the things that you have and don’t worry about the things that you don’t.” I’m not sure how grammatically correct it is, but you get the point. I want them to appreciate what they have and not be bogged down thinking about what they want or don’t currently own.
It’s hard to release the want that resides in all of us. I’ve spoken of this before, but we’re constantly inundated with commercials on what we can buy to make our lives better. It may sound corny, but nothing’s better than the loving embrace of your wife or an “I love you” from your child. These are priceless gifts that are far better than anything you can buy at a store.
Rest assured, a soldier who’s lying on a battlefield with their life flashing before their eyes would’ve done anything to hear the soothing voice of a loved one in their final moments. Too morbid? Perhaps, but it’s also important to reflect on something like that. It does happen. Such are the risks our brave soldiers take on our behalf.
It’s good to have a longing for something. It steals our nerve, allowing us to embrace the uncomfortable and unsteady world of the unknown. It’s also a great way to store up your cash reserves. If you’re not buying anything, you have the ability to put that money aside for something you really want.
When I was ten years old, all I wanted in the world was a new bike. My parents bought it for me and I was happy for about 6 months. The next item I “needed” was a new skateboard. My parents bought me that too. I have to say I did ride that quite a bit so I’m not sure that was a bad purchase on their part. The point is, I didn’t really need both.
Many of us revert to our ten year old selves when making a big purchase. You want the new sound system so you’re going to buy it. Never mind saving up. You can buy it now and pay for it later. You can buy the TV to go along with it as well. No need to save, it’s easy to plunk down the card and go for it.
The trouble is, you’re not ten years old anymore. Your parents aren’t going to be the one footing the bill, that’s your responsibility now. Take the time to think about whether whatever it is you’re buying is truly going to change your life for the better.
As you’re out and about this long holiday weekend, think about being “thankful for the things that you have and don’t worry about the things that you don’t.” As you sit back and relax on the lake, at the pool or with friends, truly appreciate the fact that you get to do whatever it is you’re doing.
While you’re at it, take a brief moment to think of the soldiers who never came home.
It’s the least we can do to honor their sacrifice.
